Guest Post by Lei Chidester:
Many women want to have it all and there is nothing wrong with that goal. Having a career, being a mom, and finding time for me is something I have always believed I could achieve. But, it’s no longer about just achieving it. It’s about being successful in maintaining a healthy balance between it all.
In other words, having all 3 in our lives isn’t necessarily the difficult part. Finding the proper balance so all 3 are “healthy” and thriving is though…but, not impossible.
What I have discovered along the way is that it all boils down to self-discipline and time management. I can’t do much to help you with self-discipline. That has to come from you. However, I can share with you some ideas that might help you with time management, so that you have more time for finding balance.
Blocking Time on the ‘Books’ for Yourself
I don’t necessarily mean to literally make an appointment with yourself, unless you need to that is. If that is what it takes for you to get an hour or so a day, then do it. Taking a little time for yourself each day will help you to rejuvenate and refresh your mind and spirit. It doesn’t matter what you choose to do during that time, as long as it is for you. If you are finding it difficult, there are ways to still fit it in without taking up more time than necessary.
For example, going to the gym for a full workout requires driving time and probably a little socializing with others who are at the gym. That could easily add an additional hour to your day, or more. It might be time to invest in a good yoga video. Or if reading is your thing invest in a digital reader, which you can take with you anywhere. Read on your lunch hour, if that is the only time you can find. Look online to find workout videos or an eReader to best suit your needs. I Googled several websites with a great Amazon Fire review before I decided that the Kindle Fire is what I wanted. A little research will do wonders in saving time as well.
Just remember, time for yourself should not be measured in quantity, but rather in quality.
Be a ‘Lister’
It might sound trivial, but get into the habit of making lists. It will help keep many areas of your life organized to have it written down in black and white…or on your iPad or iPhone.
Lists that will help you save time:
These are just a few ideas. But, take a weekly menu for example. Imagine how much time you can save by planning a weekly menu ahead of time. You will save time making the grocery list, shopping, and trying to think of what to make for dinner.
The key to creating lists is to make sure you check them. Have you ever taken the time to write out a grocery list, only to leave it at home? I have. It’s why I’m a big fan of saving a tree, and making the list on my phone now.
Save Time, Clean Up, and Have Fun
It has been a while since chores were considered just a woman’s job. For the most part, that went the way of the horse and buggy. One way to save time is to share the chores with the household. But take it a step further and make it fun…as much fun as cleaning can be, that is. Turn the radio on and make it a competition. If your children are older, see who can clean their room the fastest…and best. Just focusing on the fastest might result in more work in the end.
Most kids love a little competition. So, make the reward something they will enjoy. It could be a new CD, choosing dinner for one night, or choosing the family movie for the weekend. Are they going to love cleaning with this tactic? Probably not, sorry. But, it just might make it more tolerable for all involved, as well as free up some time for something that will be fun.
Just Say No
Probably the most important time-saver is one simple word. No. It seems like the busier we get, the more we are asked to do. I don’t know if it’s because people assume we like to run until we drop, or that everyone else has already learned to say no.
Either way, the only option we have is to start saying no more often. If it’s something you really want to do, that is different. But, if you don’t have the time…or simply don’t want to host the next PTA meeting, then don’t. Taking on events that we don’t have the time, energy, or desire to do, will only lead to frustration, which in turn leads to more time wasted trying to undo the frustration.
If we don’t take control over our lives and our time spent on various activities, nobody else will. Plan ahead, be firm, and enjoy your life to the fullest.
Lei Chidester is a full-time Internet Marketer. She lives with her family in Colorado. She is an avid reader and has become an ebook reader aficionado by night.
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